My thought Cooker #29/04/2018

Hii There,
Have you ever wondered in life,we have met many people and will meet many people at multiple points of time where you and another person or a group of people seemingly have the same resources at disposal and you might think that all the good or bad things you've done have brought you at this juncture and things will be same for you and that person/group members from now on in such a way that you think that your life without that group of people or individual will almost be impossible for you to live. but life & time have a different agenda?.I've had a couple of those moments in my college.Today was one such incident where I had to attend the marriage of my friend whom I had known from my school & college.He was the one who had tutored me and taught many things to help me reach the place where I am today.There was a time when I thought "I will not leave him for my life as I need more people like him and especially him to guide me through the complex maze of life".We both completed our course and like all other farewells,we promised to stay in touch.I feel that today,technology has made this both easier and tougher.I will come to that portion shortly.He joined in post office and I joined in an IT company.You go to a new place,you meet a couple of people like you & it might be due to a number of reasons like convenience or interests or environment which acts as a enabler and facilitator to nurture your friendship and things go smooth and well and you think you are so blessed to have a group of people so understanding.Time,often is like an earthquake dividing things where ever it goes beyond any concern for the surroundings.Unfortunately,a time comes when you've to bid farewell,albeit a tough one and you take a mental vow to stay in touch with that person/group even when the commonalities you had will start to fade one by one.Your friendship was nurtured over coffee meeting & lunch breaks,good for you but you'll have to lose them once the environment changes.Gradually you lose touch with that part of your life and the events.All the people start fading into background and new ones start replacing the old ones.Suddenly a day comes when one of them in the group has some important life event occurring and he wants you to attend that.You go and attend the event for old times sake or to refresh the long lost memories or replace them with warm and cozy new ones.It is there when you meet the people from other group and you immediately feel like talking to a good old friend whose companionship you've missed for years.But once the Hey-How-do-u-do talk gets over,the daily struggles and other routine topics start to fill your conversations.It is then when you realize that how much times have changed and how life & time do their part in all of our's lives without a second thought or any concern.The same group which had been your entire world is now reduced to one tiny fragment.All along the way you've been thinking your life was the most routine one and someone else comes only to tell theirs is even more tough than you imagine.You begin to think how environments have changed so drastically that there is nothing more common left other than the past which has to be evoked every time you want to connect.This cycle goes on and on in life till anyone of you come back to a new environment for a longer time or eventually die.But some people,can be connected with you despite the changes in environment and interests and those kind of people should be cherished and taken care of with all the energy you have.Don't create unnecessary troubles and fight with these people.You're lucky of you've got one already.What do you think about me ..Do I have a person/group like that or not..?..I suppose only she knows the answer to this question !!!!

My Thought Cooker #21/04/18

Hii there,
                 A nice warm hii to the one who is reading this.I still do not know who that person will be.The one to whom I will handover my blog and all the posts because this is what is essentially me as many of my acquaintances do not understand me fully(Can I use yet here or does it sound desperate!!).Have you ever felt when there is no one in this entire world to understand and accept you as you are.Now accepting is one thing which can be done without or with less understanding but I always prefer some understanding prior to acceptance.You might have best friends,a couple of them might be close to you than you think.Have you ever wondered what led to the creation of friendships in first place.Was it the common interests or environment.Because,from what I have seen environment plays a very major role in nurturing relationships these days.I have kept a special term for it- "Situation-ship".Once the situation goes away,so does the friendship.But there are some friends with whom we share a lot of things in common.Maybe behavior or personality or character,For ex.But what happens when the things you start having common start depleting..Like for ex:- you might love doing a certain activity with your best friends some time ago but you don't find it interesting now.Do you tell this to them or keep this to yourself.After all,isn't this the entire dilemma of our lives..How much of past you want to carry yourself to future in such a way that present is not tainted by the past?
I've known,seen and heard people who take harsh decisions on themselves once they undergo a heart break or a break up.In those times,they think it will be impossible for them to fall in love again considering what they have undergone now.But as time marches ahead,the same person falls in love again and again and again,probably harder than the previous time.I ask to myself why does this happen.How can the person forget the past so easily and move on to the future?..Isn't it making our past seem worthless?..Maybe this time they look at love from a different perspective when compared to the previous time.Do you know what is the most powerful feeling in this world..It is the feeling of being loved/needed.Ever wonder why people fall in love over and over again.It gives them a feeling of being wanted and needed.Once you understand the other person has started to depend on you for any kind of support,this understanding is more powerful than combination of all the drugs in the world and that is exactly why when the person leaves us we wait for sometime and want to fill it with something else.Some start finding another girl/boy or nurture addictions which may/may not be harmful in long term.You might ask,why are you thinking of this suddenly Gautham?..Did u get reminded of that girl.Now don't go all the way to Bangalore,you fool.She left you and there are goo d chances she's happy elsewhere.Maybe yes,But remember one thing love that has understanding first and acceptance first goes in a long term while the one where acceptance comes first suffers a lot simply because you cannot accept anything in this world without understanding it.Let us hope ours belongs to the first category.
Cheers !!!